Gathering: October 4, 2014 1 – 3pm @ The Point Church and Community, 2578 Donica Road, Greenwood IN 46143
Celebration of Life: 3pm
Jean Daguerre was many things; a wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt and friend. Those were her titles, but something far greater ended up defining her; a title she wouldn’t come to own or understand until later into her beautiful life: Warrior.
As a Montessori teacher, it was embedded in her to teach others and reach them where they were at on their individual paths in life. What she didn’t know was that she was about to become the world’s teacher on heroism, strength, fierceness and fight. The love everyone in her world had for her spanned the globe and inspired countless number of lives, from every walk of life; from those she knew and thousands more she didn’t.
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou
You can’t ignore her story or her many exemplary traits that lead you to believe that angels on earth really do exist. Her story is both made of dreams and tragedy, separately and all at once. Her story is one of hope and heartache, illumination and darkness, adversity and heroism, lost and found, risk and reward, inspiration and courage, strength and grace. She had a way about her; she shined and always seemed untouched by the negativity in the world. She wanted no part in that; she wanted to live in an optimistic world where anything was possible. She was a survivor in every sense of the word and soon she would come to find that the definition would take over her existence.
“We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up, seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared, discovering we have the strength to stare it down.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
It would be impossible to dream up the amount of blessings that came to her and even, what was waiting for her. When she met her husband, Hernan Daguerre, he whisked her away and crowned her his Queen the moment he laid eyes on her. They married in Buenos Aires in 2004. Her dream was just beginning as her world opened up to love, life and blessings soon to unfold. Jean lived a fairytale series of dreams come true; you could always count on seeing her joy by the light in her eyes and the sparkling smile on her face as her cheeks rose to kiss her eyelashes. She radiated light.
In October 2009, Hernan and Jean welcomed their first child, a son, Lucas Gabriel. Lucas was the beacon of everything perfect and pure within, not only their newly crowned family, but their life as husband and wife. When Lucas was born, life made sense in ways it never had before. No two people were meant to be parents more than Jean and Hernan. Maybe you had to watch them to understand, but them loving and raising Lucas together, it was like watching the most eloquent of dances. Between the three of them, they were magic.
As Jean and Hernan were settling into life as parents, in August 2010, only a couple months before they were to celebrate Lucas’s first birthday, Jean learned two things: first, she was pregnant with her second child and two….she had breast cancer. How this was a part of her story, no one could understand. How she went about both was nothing short of a mother’s fierce love. Within a week of her initial diagnosis, a new version of Jean emerged. She was ready to go to battle and she had no intention of backing down. She decided that everything she loved was worth risking it all for. And not one word of apology left her lips for what she knew she had to do; she was on a mission and there was nobody that would stand in her way. With her Dr reassuring her that their unborn child would be safe while undergoing surgery and chemotherapy, all Jean needed to know was where to be and when. See, to Jean, she didn’t view cancer as a life sentence; she accepted it as a detour in her journey and with a smile, a few laughs and a bountiful amount of grace, she took her world by storm. She walked alongside the odds with a dominate stance and she didn’t spend a second thinking that this would end without her giving everything she had. When one would fold, Jean chose to rise. And rise, she did.
After undergoing chemotherapy throughout her pregnancy, Jean gave birth to a healthy baby girl, Gabriela Hope, on Easter morning in April 2011, just a week after completed her last chemotherapy session. Maybe she didn’t have the hair on her head, but she was well aware what she traded it for and it was the precious daughter she held in her arms. No regrets and showered with blessings. Life as Jean knew it was complete and for that, she gave thanks. However, a few short months after Gabriela was born, the most horrendous call came and changed Jean forever.
It all started as a simple errand ran by Jean’s husband. In a horrific twist of fate, on September 29, 2011, Jean lost her husband, Hernan, in a single car accident that forced her to begin a new chapter in her life that she never dreamed she’d have; the life of a single mother raising two small children. At the time that Hernan died, Lucas was 2 years old and Gabi only 5 months old. They spent years building this incredible life together and with one unfortunate decision, the curtain of their life was pulled closed. It made no sense to those who witnessed the phenomenon that was them. So there Jean stood, in the middle of a horrific storm, learning to live without the love of her life and the father of her children, maneuvering through her new life as a single mom and fighting cancer with everything she had left in her. No one in their right mind ever doubted her; that would be ridiculous. Because Jean is Jean and Jean is strong. As far as many of us were concerned; she was the definition of strength. She still is and she will always be; that is one of her strongest legacies she leaves behind.
Shortly after Hernan’s death, Jean moved to Indianapolis, where her closest family and friends lived. She wanted to provide safety and a broader sense of family for herself and her kids. She wanted to learn to navigate through her new life, holding the hands of those she loved. She wanted her children to know that family was more than just sharing a last name; it was the sense of community that they were surrounded by.
After an aggressive and courageous 4 year long battle with cancer, Jean passed away on September 20, 2014 and hearts all over the world broke simultaneously. As painful as it is, as her friend, to write this, it also is one of my greatest honors. Both in life and in death, Jean will be missed, mourned and remembered. Most of all, she will always be loved by the seeds she sowed and the astounding impact she made.
Maybe it was never about curing Jean of cancer, for which our hearts are broken because of. Maybe it seems that every prayer, tear and fear that we all shared with her was unheard and the pain, too quickly validated by the outcome. But, maybe it wasn’t about the outcome at all, but more about the impact one human being was able to make in the lives of thousands that she was meant to reach with her story. Jean told me many times that she wanted to make a difference in other’s lives; she wanted to show, by example, that you really can rise from the ashes and that all the heartache and tragedy she went through didn’t define her. Her courage, tenacity, strength and fight did; that’s how she would want you to remember her. Where all gave some, Jean gave all. And, if it really was more about the journey than the destination, if the final leg of her journey was to teach and inspire through the joy and sorrow of her own life, maybe then, we can learn to mimic everything she stood for and be changed in ways that weren’t possible without witnessing the way she danced and hand wrote every chapter of her story.
“I want to inspire people. I want people to think of me and say, ‘Because of you, I didn’t give up.'”
What do I want you to know about Jean Daguerre? Jean is beautiful. Jean is courageous. Jean is the epitome of grace. Jean fought to the bitter end. Jean is the kind of friend that, regardless of struggle, background, future or status, she loves you because of who you are, not what your circumstances are. Jean’s wisdom is nothing to ignore, but something to apply. Jean’s humor is lasting; she took life as seriously as she could until humor found its way to the surface and then she was all in. Jean’s compassion for the fallen; I dare you to match it. Jean, oh incredible Jean, she’s a game changer and she has no apologies for how many trails she’s blazed before her battle with cancer even began. She is Jean and Jean is love and light.
Judy Rossman says
May her children never forget how much they were loved by both of their parents. My heart is sad for the entire Jean Marie family and friends. And thanks to a beautiful friend for sharing this courageous story.
Annie Van Tonder-Amis says
Beautiful tribute to a beautiful person. Condolences to both Jean’s family and Hernan’s family.
Much love,
Annie & Brad Amis
Andrea McNeely says
Brandi,
You and your family are in my prayers. I can’t imagine the heartache you are all living with.
Dulcy Wilson says
There are no words. Jean has left a legacy like no other….we are all better for knowing her. Prayers to family & friends. Lucas & Gabi ~ your mommy was the strongest person I’ve ever known. She changed countless lives for the better. One day I hope you read this tribute & can feel how much she meant to so many. She is ALWAYS with you.
Amy Driskell says
That was most beautiful tribute I’ve ever read. What a legacy she has left to all who knew her and those that will wish they did! I was fortunate to know Jean through her sister Brandi and I joked to her that I was her facebook stalker. Her pictures and story were inspirational. When the time came, she was the only person I could think of to take my son’s senior pictures. I felt silly even asking her, but she was more than happy to do it and they spent several hours one fall afternoon talking and taking pics and my daughter and I spent the time with Lucas and Gabi. I will always be grateful to Jean for those special photos and the precious note she sent to me afterward. She gave me the best compliment by telling me I was a good mother and should be proud of the son I had raised. What a gift that was to me!!! May God’s peace surround Jeans’ children all the days of their lives and let her “love and light” guide them always.
Mary Lou Klammer says
Dearest Lucas,Gabi& Family,
There are no words to express my deepest sympathy to her beautiful children and family, I did not have the honor of knowing Jean personally but I have read about her from a friend of hers Laurie. Now reading her story I wish I had known her.
My prayers are with her Chrildren at this time and I know their Mom and Dad will be guiding them through life from heaven above.
A hero was taken from her Chrildren and now they were given special Angels assigned to them personally and their names are Mommy and Daddy. May their Moms courage give them the strength to grow as amazing people just as she was to all who knew Hera.
God speed little ones.
Bob Bernard says
God Bless, you are a wonderful woman and left an imprint on us all!!!
Jerry Prizevoits says
I was a classmate of Jeans and she had an unforgettable smile. Through social networking we corresponded about fertility, children and how they are amazing miracles. Jean is an amazing soul and her family has my prayers and condolences.
Rest in peace my friend, until we meet again.
Kim Hajduk says
It was an Honor knowing Jean – What a Beautiful Strong Woman – an inspiration to all! Jean’s Love radiates thru every Life she has encountered!
Christy Welsch-Copeland says
Brandi,
This was an amazingly eloquent eulogy. I can see that she was an amazing person, sister, and mom. If we were closer to the area we would be right there offering any help you need. But anything we can do please let us know. You and your family are in our thoughts. I have thought of that photo of your sister and you in bed together for days. It was gorgeous and such an example of love.
Sincerely,
Christy
Claudia says
las chicas from Portland loved Jean so much.
She was beautiful, brave, and simply amazing!
Paula Hoover says
Her story is both inspiring and tragic, my love goes out to her children, family and friends. Thank you for sharing. Love, Paula
Heather Diers says
This is a beautiful tribute for a beautiful person. She will be so very missed and my prayers for her babies will never stop. Rest in peace, Jean. You are loved.
Francine Knuth says
Jean,
Where to start, she was one of my nieces and one of the strongest women I ever knew or will ever know. I am proud of the why she fought for more time with her children. Jean was a loving beautiful, wonderful woman who gave all to her children & family. I am happy that Jean got to meet & marry the Love of her life Hernan and have two beautiful healthy children with him. Lucas & Gabi had two amazing parents that are now Angels looking over them for the rest of their lives, and they will always be in their hearts and souls. I am happy that they have a loving Aunt Brandi that adores and loves them and will take good care of them. With the help from Jean & Brandi’s mother & their grandmother Betty, their Aunt Kim & Uncle Jimmy. Plus they have Hernan’s side of the family, along with other family members and close friends. They have a lot of great people who love them and will keep their loving arms around them to help guide them along their path through life. Rest in peace Jean along with Hernan now, no more pain. You were our “Jean Strong” to the end. Jean will always be in our hearts and deeply missed every day. Jean had a beautiful contagious smile that would make you smile even if you did not feel like it. Everyone that knew her and was lucky enough to be close to her were better off for that relationship, as she gave more then she took. All my thoughts and prayers are with Lucas, Gabi, Betty, Brandi, Kim, and Jimmy along with the rest of her immediate family and close friends that loved Jean. When ever you need Jean just close your eyes and she will be there holding your hand helping you through the tough and sad times. I am proud to call her family.
Love Always and forever,
XOXO Aunt Fran, Uncle Dave and family.
John and April Spanogle and Family says
Such beauty and grace. Eloquent and graceful. Loving and caring. Words can not express the person that was Jean. Getting to know Jean this last year, as both our families moved back to Indy, was truly a blessing. Our favorite moment was of Jean and our infant son Jaxon napping in her bed. They were both in pure bliss and she was in no pain. That was so touching to see. She is now with the angels and hope she blesses us all!!!
So Much Love,
John, April, Tristian and Jaxon (Spanogle Family)
Brian Banks says
Brandi,
I can’t even imagine the heartache & emptiness that you, your mom & family are experiencing. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family at this difficult time. I will always remember Jean’s smile & laugh.
Sharon says
My heart goes out to Jean’s little babies and her family. This is a very difficult time in your life. I am so sorry for your loss. Though the pain may seem unbearable, please remember that you are not alone. Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a help that is readily found in times of distress. Pray to Him for strength. Weep to Him when there are no words. He will really help you (Isaiah 41:10) because He knows what you’re going through better than anyone else and He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).
JOSE LUIS PALACIO says
JANE GOD BLESS YOU THE EXAMPLE YOU GAVE US IS THE BEST THING THAT WE CAN FOLLOW AND NOW YOUR HUSBAND IS AT YOUR SIDE
Sheryl Tuvell says
Brandi, my heart broke when I read this. Please know how sorry I am for your family’s loss. May you find comfort, peace and love. Love, Sheryl snd Ron Tuvell (Stacy and Brent )
Sharon martlage Kunstek says
What a wonderful tribute! My heart breaks and my love and prayers are with all of Jean’s family. I feel honored to have gotten to know Jean through Brandi and my daughter Tina. I treasue those memories.
Carmen bonebrake says
Dear Settle Daguerre family:
I met Jean thanks to our mutual friend Carlota Collins in Portland, Or. We celebrare together Lucas’s 1st birthday and I can tell that she was the most amazing mother I have ever met. she helped me with my own struggles during my IVF process. Jean was so kind, generous and she always held my hand and gave me hope that one day I will have my own baby. When she announce that Gaby was on her way I couldn’t be happier, when she asked us for prayers I did it with all my heart.
Jean became my hero. She will always be my inspiration. Her strength had no limits and after 5 years of struggles, I learned on September 20th that I am pregnant. Won’t be an easy one, but I have the image of Jean at my side, smiling and whispering in my ear… Stay strong, Jean strong.
Leslie and Carley says
Our thoughts and prayers go out to the entire family. Brandi, Mya and Nate we love you and know the past few months must have been so meaningful by spending precious time together and creating memories with her and the kids. We are inspired by her, and recognize how close you two were knowing you’ve been by her side through this journey. We are sure she’s smiling and at peace with Hernan in heaven now. We are here for you anytime.
Love,
Patricia Basaldúa Argentina says
Dulce Jean, descansa en Paz, en compañía de Diego y tus otros seres queridos. Has sido un ejemplo para todos de lucha,fortaleza y una increíble energía. Has trasmitido amor y alegría a tus bellos hijos.
Siempre estarás en nuestro corazón y en nuestras oraciones.
Tus hijos quedan a buen cuidado, con familias de los lados que los van a guiar y cuidar como ellos precisen.
Fue un privilegio conocerte y quererte a la distancia.
Desde Argentina, Patricia, Hugo y los chicos, Rosario, Flor y Francisco.
Patricia Cominsky says
Having met Jean and the kids only recently through Mi Escuelita, I was glad to learn even more. I am praying for not only Gabi and Lucas but for your entire family. May Jean and Diego live on through the kids, in their minds, and in their hearts. They both have angels in heaven keeping a protective eye over them. May Jean reunite with her love Diego and rest in peace.
Bless you all,
Patricia, Joe, Jack and Carolina
Sharon Emanuel-Ip says
Jean, I am grateful for our special friendship these past 2 ½ years. You are indeed one of the strongest, most thoughtful women I’ve had the joy of knowing. Thank you for everything.
Lucas and Gabi, your mommy loved and cherished you. Keep both your mommy and dada safely tucked away in your hearts. As your first Montessori teacher who loves you very much, I want you to know that I am here for you, if you ever need me.
Brandi, Betty, Bob, and other family members, I am sorry for your loss. Jean is in a better place now; she isn’t suffering anymore. I pray that the beautiful memories of her life will give you the strength to be strong and carry on.
Sandra Stapleton Jacobs says
Jean was such an inspiration. She was a wonderful, wife, mother, daughter and a friend to many. She left behind a STRONG-Jean Strong legacy. She was my cousin I meet through FB by her mother Betty. She comes from a family of true survivors. She is in Heaven with the love of her life, Hernan. Jean and Hernan are guardian angel looking down on Gabi and Lucas. My heart goes out to all family and friends. Keeping you all in my prayers. God Bless to all.
Love,
Sandra
Kelley Hanan-Parlette says
I saw this beautiful girl walking her 2 dogs with her beautiful little boy in a stroller AND a baby on the way. I’m a dog walker and I was walking a dog in Bellevue, WA in one of the high rises. We started chatting and I offered my help. We went inside and found we had a lot in common. I’m a now 22 year Breast Cancer SURVIVOR so we DID have a lot to talk about. She had this AMAZING charisma that I just had to get to know her. I was her dog walker when she lived here and loved my bit of time during the day with her where we could get to know each other better. I couldn’t believe how incredibly STRONG Jean was THRU EVERYTHING!!! It’s rare to meet someone later in life that you could become very close to so quickly. I loved Jean in the short time we got to know each other and feel so lucky that she crossed my path. Love and healing to all of your beautiful family and friends Jean xoxo